Nothing holds people together like communication and in the case of marital relationship, this is not different. Communication is an act of passing thoughts across to each other either in words or in actions. Only the people who talks together stays together, hence this is the only way to know what content is inside any container before it becomes too late. This makes it wise to always set time apart for good communication on relevant issues in a relationship.
Good understanding will always help you measure and compare the comprehension your partner to your own viewpoints. As we give good observation to reactions in words or in acts mostly exhibited in our day to day living, this makes it easier to know how far a relationship can go. Disagreement may to necessarily mean that one of the two parties is wrong, but may simply reveal that certain principles about our upbringings are too strong to be compromised. This is a clear evidence that you don’t belong together.
In addition, we also need to know that understanding cut across the spirit, soul and body of the individuals involved. As Christian in a relationship, you need to ask yourself questions like; does my partner believes and practice what I believe? For what agreement is Christ with Balial? How free is your partner able to express himself/herself amidst your colleagues and other friends? This will help measure your mental compatibility. You also need to face the reality about how much your partner want both of you to be seen together? Please, don’t expect any “happy ever after” is such relationship which today is full of arguments and differences.
Openness is the evidence of sincerity and acceptance of the other person in every relationship. How much is your partner willing to tell you about himself/herself without your much persuasion? Is there any subject that he or she is trying to avoid in a course of discussion? Are there occasions you notice him/her trying to change the subject of a discussion? It may be matters concerning family, academics or health. Is might even be about some past relationship with other people. No matter how painful or pleasant it may be, openness demands that both of you have the ability to share it freely without much attachment.
Trust is the custodian of commitment. In any relationship where trust cannot be guaranteed, there is an assurance that disaster and heartbreak are not far from fetch.
I will like to describe trust as an account where one can either make withdrawals or deposits. Deposit is made when you keep to your words with corresponding action, while withdrawal comes as your words goes far from your acts. Note that it is possible to keep withdrawing in an account until it enters debit. Nevertheless, there are certain withdrawals which can be made from bank just once, and such will leave no other hesitation than for the account to be closed.
